“I had become a human doing instead of a human being.”

What a line!

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love the name comma project (and even more that you don't know why, you just feel conviction around it!!). As someone who is doing lots of things and also kinda nothing I often struggle with this question! I don't ever feel ashamed of my answer, thankfully, but I have found it interesting how different my answers can be, depending on who I'm talking to. That in itself is revealing.

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I second that - this line hits hard, "I had become a human doing instead of a human being."

The question-that-shall-not-be-named is something I've been thinking a lot about lately. I've noticed that people in my community don't ask that question or really any questions to get to know each other. I feel like the odd-woman out asking people about their lives and what they do while simultaneously knowing "what do you do" is an uninspiring question.

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I'm so glad it resonates, I'm glad to have you reading along!

Keep it up! I believe it's courageous and important to seek to connect, even when (or perhaps even especially when) we feel like the odd one out.

We have to start somewhere. Particularly if you're the one leading the charge, I guess it's important to simply extend the invitation to connection, however it happens, then deepen from there.

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Great essay - really resonates with me! This line in particular stood out:

“The only thing worse than trying to fit in is realizing that, even once you do, you actually feel worse for losing the things that you love most about yourself.”

I think I’m still in the process of reconnecting (and reintegrating) parts of myself, like my creative expression, that I lost connection with over the years. So this part hits home.

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